So I ran across this long ago, but never posted it. Read & tell me what you think -
Call me a pessimist, but at first glance the below report on self-esteem seems quite positive. And generally it would be, when an effort to examine how black women feel about their bodies is all-inclusive of our humanity in equal proportions to all other women in question. But are they truly positive, when the method for forecasting self-esteem puts other women’s context at the center of the model?
The report (from Allure magazine) says:
* African-American and Hispanic women are twice as likely as Caucasian women to report not wanting to change their body in any way.
* A third of African-American women think of themselves as the most attractive person in the room.
* African-American men are directionally more likely to embrace and aspire to curviness – they say they want curvier hips and a higher/rounder butt or a larger butt.
- never include or ask women how they feel about complexion, over things like wrinkles.
- never account for black hetero women’s self esteem as it relates to what they will sacrifice in relationships, and the standards and treatment they will accept.
- mentions findings on things such as anorexia, but not how self-esteem deducing it may be for a male partner to claim his preference for you, not for the beauty of your eyes, smile, facial features, and your heart, but instead, for your nipples, butt, labia, or any other erogenous zone for his personal sexual fulfillment.
- never includes how women may feel about their natural hair texture.
- never begins to examine how women with “rounder” features may feel about their lips, cheekbones, nose shape or facial profile when in the mirror.
- fail to acknowledge that reports of insecurity are severely skewed if said women learned that discussing typical female insecurities is “self-hatred” (as punishment for not conforming to the myth of super-human). Such women would, of course, report more incidents of positivity overall to avoid stigma.
We relate to people (rather average people or celebrities) who discuss their imperfections, over those who view themselves as perfect and lacking any flaws. They are human, like us. In fact, the normal custom is to despise the people who do not and we consider them incapable of human emotions.
I cannot state enough that there are no statistical solutions for socialized problems. What are women, if they don’t have basic things like insecurities and sensitivity in common? We do. They just continuously go unreported.